This is a phrase I use – a lot!
It came from an Alexander Technique specialist, she spoke about kindly pausing and considering the movement in our bodies. I find it is appropriate for many situations.
I apply it in movement. As I consider how I use my hands and body at the harp and thinking about the way each part of the feet, back, shoulder, arms, hands and fingers play a role in the simple plucking of a string. As the realisation of just how many factors need to align for the perfect string pluck (does that even exist??) dawns on me, I like to kindly pause and think about each little element on its own. The part it plays. How it leads on to the next in the string of motions needed for a simple strike of a note.
I apply it in friendship. Kindly pause and really listen to a friend. Listen to the excitement in their voice as they express a fantastic moment for them. Listen to the softness as they share a difficult time. Not jumping in, but just kindly pausing and listening intently.
I apply it when walking. Who doesn’t love a brisk walk on a crisp day? But to kindly pause and breathe in the surroundings. To take the time to look at the view, touch the leaves, soak in the colours.
And I apply it in music practice. That phrase with the difficult fingering, so frustrating I must STOP and get it right. No, the word stop is too strong. It jars you. Kindly pause instead. Kindly pause and replace fingers for a new shape. Kindly pause and allow your left-hand to catch up with your right. Kindly pause and listen to the ringing of the strings you have just played.
We have the Christmas Harp Collaboration just round the corner. I am so looking forward to welcoming many of you into this project. But in the past people have gotten themselves a little worked up or worried about taking part.
Everyone.
Kindly pause.
Even one note played will add something amazing to a piece of music.
Enjoy that one note.
I hope to be playing with you over the next few weeks as we dive into the Christmas Harp Collaboration 2022!